You feel in a rut. Every day is just the same. You wake up, go to work, come home and get to do it all over again tomorrow. You witness the days, weeks, months or even years passing by and you feel life is just happening to you. You ask yourself, and rightly so – is this all that life is about?


Often we want to push these thoughts away not realizing that they will not disappear. They will be stuck deep inside us, mirroring how we are stuck in our lives.

Why do you feel like this?

Life is overwhelming at times. And it tends to take over. When that happens you may feel you lost control of your own life. Your life has become stagnant.

What can you do?

Slow down at first, in order to speed up later.

Reflect on your life. If you feel dissatisfied with some areas, decide what you want to change and commit. When you commit, there will always be a way.

Don’t forget, only when you take responsibility for your own destiny, you can start controlling it. At times your choices may be very uncomfortable. But: you always have choices.

Take your life back!

Here are 5 tips to free yourself from being stuck:

1. Have an honest conversation with yourself

You can only make changes in your life if you are honest with yourself and motivated to take the necessary steps towards a more fulfilling life. Take some time to reflect. 

Whatever is happening in your life is within your control to change. Think about it and plan your strategy. Face your reality and ask yourself hard questions.

Which part of your life goes well? Health, career, relationships, money? What needs improvement? If you could change just one thing instantly in your life, what would that be? What do you want your life to be in 5 years? What is stopping you from being there already? What is holding you back from doing what you really want?

Remember: life responds to you.

If you see the world in a positive light, both your mindset and your life will change and improve.

2. Set goals

Imagine a bus driver that wouldn’t have a destination plan and a map to get there. Where would you end up?

The best way to make changes in your life is to set goals and commit to it. Take time to map out your goals. Then break them down into smaller bits and identify actionable steps towards each of them.

First, focus on changing your daily routine by doing things you’ve never done before. With other words start stretching your comfort zone.

Take small steps at a time.

Say, you want to improve your work-life balance. Identify first what does that mean to you? Then create a list of goals you need to reach to have more balance on the long term. Work less? Spend more time with your family? Have more “ME” time?

Look at it from all angles and plan small steps to take in the next weeks. It is important not to rush it, but to keep on moving forward to reach your ultimate goal.

Follow your heart. You know best what direction your life should be following.

Do what makes YOU happy. Others around you will benefit from your happiness.

3. Share your struggles with others

We tend to feel alone in our struggles and life experiences. But, the truth is, everybody feels stuck at some point.

Sharing your struggle with others will make you feel heard.  Others will support you, share their own stories with you, and will actually make you aware of new possibilities that you haven’t considered. Realizing that there are others out there who struggle too is a huge relief.

4. Be your own best friend

Sometimes we are harsh on ourselves. By comparing ourselves to others and telling ourselves what we are not good at we might become our own worst enemy. Be critical but do not judge yourself. Everyone feels stuck now and then.

You will find a way out and in the process, become a better you. Your journey is your own.

Focus on the things that are important to you. What brings you joy, light, and happiness?

5. Healthy life

You’ve heard it countless times, but it is true. A healthy mind lives in a healthy body.

Live healthier. Eat more fresh fruit and vegetables and get a good night’s sleep. Spend time outside in nature and do exercises you really like. Practice mindfulness regularly. It will help you focus your attention to the present moment instead of ruminating the past.

Are you ready to rock?

Choose to be in control and be willing to take the necessary steps toward your goal every day. It will require focus, patience, and perseverance to work through multiple challenges. As a result: your life will be shifted in the right direction.

Don’t wait for things get better! Find the help you need. As a first step, you can reach out to me.

What’s your biggest challenge? Let me know!

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